bismillaah

I like this:

Mental health tips. . .

Don't listen to the little demon in your head that says you can't do this. You can do it, you will do it, in fact, you are doing it. If you've been accepted on a phd then your supervisor, your institution and your funding body (if you have one) all believe in you; so make sure that you remember to believe in yourself once in a while.

Your thesis does not have to be perfect, it merely has to be good enough (although this is still difficult to achieve, it is infinitiely more achievable than 'perfect')

I borrowed it from the postgraduateforum

bismillaah

orang kata, Beginners are plenty, but only a few reach the finishing line!
Feels like a slap on the face for me who is definitely in the midst of struggling to keep my head in the game, and even 'dreaming' of quitting the challenge! I am causing myself confusion and delay!(should I add trouble to that?)

Feeling like writing a motivational book for myself and other postgraduate students to keep on the track and stay alive for the next years to come! Ahah, but surely I have to survive the postgraduate years myself, first inshaAllaah. It will be full off guides for identifying the motivation, keeping it high, and maintaining it throughout life!

I am having confusion over my goals and the have(or must?)-to-do things. I am tied with my institution, my dream, and other personal commitments, yet I want to be free to do things I really like doing like staying at home taking care of my family, visiting my parents without worrying about finishing my PhD, etc. Sounds lame!

I have surfed through the internet and found that my problem is a universal one. Most postgrads will have doubts over their abilities and their motivation at some point during their postgrad studies.Most PhD students will waste their first year in confusion and they definitely will regret wasting that first year(and I am sure I am falling into their shoes!)
Oh wait, that means I am a 'nomal' postgrad student!(I think 'normal' sounds better than 'average' LOL)

Okay, by reading down until this line you might already have the idea of how my 'head' is doing right now. Yup, I am thinking and worrying much about my studies and I am tying myself with my own laziness, procrastination, and endless excuses(they have became huge and complicated these days)

Bismillaah

oul you guss whih lttrs ar missing hr?
My laptop kyboar is mss up an thr ar som lttrs whih ar not going to show up hr

is it just lik this in lif?

w think it is okay to lav out som things thinking that thy wouln't fft th whol pitur

but as you just might hav noti, ths 'small' forgottn things i atually mss up th whol thing!

Just som xampls,

Not waring hijaab

Not prforming solat

Not paying zakat

Not going to masji(for mals ya!)

an all thos iffrnt things that w somhow think that thy ar not that important an w an still surviv an still an b a Muslim! Hllo???

bismillaah


Along the way
Sometimes I couldn't avoid hurting others' feelings
Was just being me and being human

Along the way
Most people would not want to understand
or accept you the way you are
You are as what they expect you to be
Perfect, flawless and unhuman

Ironic as it seems
but it is the real, hard truth

As much as I dont understand others
They dont understand me as much either
It is a neverending loop

Me with my expectations
and them with theirs

perfect imperfection

Bismillaah

It is on us

of what we did

we've been given the freedom to choose

with sound intellect to be used

so should be wise are our decisions

however

we love our freedom

we use it to the max as we could

we hold great pride for our intellectuality

yet we use logic the most with little reference to Allaah,
He who knows the movements of even every particles of dust?

Islam is simple

yet we want to simplify it even more

Think we know how to handle things with best

so who is better, us or the Prophet, Peace and Blessings be Upon him?

who is smarter, us or our Creator?

Do really 'simpler' always means better?

Think my friend,
Let us think
Let us remember
Let us reflect

Let us go back
That we are created only to worship our Creator
The One and Only
When He told us to do so, we should just do

He created rules to be obeyed,

He gives things that we can carry on our shoulders,
Readily simple and clear,

and our lives will be at best

InshaAllaah

Bismillaah

ALhamdulillaah my lovelyloved ones are doing great. They are unique as individuals in their own ways.

Hajar as usual, loves drawing, coloring, and writing. She knows how to write her name and her siblings' names. She knows how to write her name both in all upper letters and the proper way: Capital H, and the rest small letters. MashaAllaah, she has a bright talent in art. She also loves helping ibu cleaning and tidying the home. Usually, she will put all the toys and clutters aside before going to bed.

Adam as usual, very playful and adorable. He loves seeking attention and approval from people around him. He is also a very concern brother to his little sister. He was the first child to wake up in the morning and would sit sleepily on the couches. Later on, when ibu was upstairs ironing clothes and when Maryam wake up crying looking for ibu, Adam will hold Maryam's hand and take her through the steps going upstairs carefully. MashaAllaah, ibu love the scene very much.

Our lil girl Maryam is learning to make sentences. She can now speak clearer than before. Her sentences are understandable however short they are. Maryam can also sing her song of everybody 'tido' when she was the only one who still awake when everyone else was fast asleep :).

Bismillaah

I have this bad habit of always being a pessimist,

ok...before I continued writing this just now, I came across this beautiful saying from my dear sister Sarah, barakAllaahu fiki,

Don't despair of your human weaknesses! Remember what Ibn Taymiyyah (r) said: “What really counts are good endings, not flawed beginnings.”

This is my bad habit, always focusing on my weaknesses, my faults, and things that I don't do right. It was all because I don't do things according to their priority, and I was just wandering round and round without clear life plan. What to do?

Just like reading my mind, Sarah continues with this,

Do three things and you will be happy in life, insha Allah!

1-Take action.

2-Rely upon Allah for the results.

3-Thank Allah for everything that you have.

Allah says: "Whoever does righteousness, whether male or female, while he is a believer - We will surely cause him to live a good life" 16:97 via Sh.Navaid Aziz

Now, this is a blessing of having a righteous friend. Without her even knowing, she spreads the benefits of her thoughts to others, walHamdulillaah. Allaah azzawajall has given me tremendous opportunity of being around good, righteous friends and more, a very humble husband. These are people who always remind me of things that I should remember both directly and indirectly. They teach and lead me through their words and actions. Alhamdulillaah ya Allaah, I can never thank You enough.

O Allaah,

You walk me through my weaknesses

You gave me help in many ways

Alhamdulillaah Thumma laka Alhamd

Give me the opportunity to stare at Your Face

On the day when there is no other shade other than Yours

Allaahumma ameen